Wife Advice

ADVICE FROM A WIFE: Melisa from Pie N’ the Sky

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Hello there!

It’s been a hectic couple of weeks on my end but I’m excited to get back to this awesome advice series. I love reading the responses of such sweet, honest, and insightful women.

Today’s interview is with Melisa from Pie N’ the Sky. Melisa and I worked on the same campaign awhile back and I have been visiting her blog ever since! Be sure to stop by and check out here blog whenever you have a chance!

Q. Tell us a little bit about yourself.
A. My name is Melisa and I’m a 26 year old wife, dog mama, blogger, university admissions counselor, voice instructor, and graduate student. I currently live outside of Fort Worth with my husband Elisha and our tiny dachsund, Gretchen.Q. How long have you been married?
Elisha and I just celebrated our one year anniversary on November 7th! We also celebrated our ten year date-iversary on Novermber 4th!

 
Q. Did you opt to a budget friendly wedding or an extravagant one? Which approach would you recommend to brides currently planning their wedding?
A. We landed somewhere in the middle. We gave ourselves a pretty strict budget and I’m happy to say that we stuck pretty close to it. We knew we wanted to use the majority of our money to build a life, a home, and family together, and not so much just on the wedding itself. So we made a list of the non-negotiables, the things we had to have to really make our wedding memorable. From there we made our budget – the things that mattered got the most money put towards them, and the others were allocated appropriately. For example, I knew I wanted great photos and a beautiful dress – Elisha knew he wanted a nice tailored suit and great location. So, photographer, venue and attire were at the top of our list. It’s fine if you want to splurge, it your wedding so by all means! But, make sure you splurge on the things that actually matter to you.
Q. What have you enjoyed most about married life?
A. Getting to spend everyday with my best friend. I know I know, kinda cheesy, but completely true. Elisha and I dated for 8 years before he proposed to me . There was something pretty incredible that happened in the “waiting” portion of our relationship – we became true lifelong friends. So I love that I get to live with my best friend, and share life with him, and learn and grow together.
Q. What has been your biggest challenge as a couple so far?
A. I would have to say defining our roles. I work an 8-5 job and Elisha has more freedom with his work schedule. Because of this he’s home more often than I am, so things like cleaning and starting dinner are more easily done by him. Not that I beleive women are the only ones who can do that, but it’s been difficult for me to not be able to help as much in those areas. He’s wonderful and willng to help in any area and for that I’m so grateful! In my mind, I was going to be the one at home cleaning and cooking and taking care of things, so this has just been an adjustment. I don’t anticipate this is how it’ll be forever, but for now it’s what works for us.
Q. What advice would you give to newlyweds?
A. hmmm… there’s a lot I could say. Early on in our dating relationship I was told this piece of advice and it has stuck with me and truly changed our relationship : Always put your spouses needs above your own. If both spouses will do this, then you will have a relationship where both people are being taken care of equally. I always make sure Elisha is taken care of and he always makes sure I’m taken care of. In this way we feel loved and supported, and not one person is constantly giving or taking. Remember to be accepting, loving and always forgiving! “Let it go” is a good phrase to keep in mind. There are bound to be little irritations or hot topics that come up, but if you can learn to just let those little things go, you’re gonna be better for it!

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Thank you for your wonderful responses Melisa! I loved looking through your wedding photos! I wish you both tons of continued happiness 🙂

If you would like to see more of Melisa’s wedding photos, visit her wedding post: HERE. You can also learn more about here by connecting with her on instagram, twitter, and pinterest.

I hope you enjoyed today’s interview. Let me know if there’s a question you’d like to see included!

 

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3 Comments

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    Antionette Blake
    November 26, 2014 at 5:33 pm

    Very cute interview, 1 year, that’s nice. Happy Thanksgiving.

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    mylifeinmascara
    November 26, 2014 at 7:46 pm

    Beautiful!

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    Dogmama
    November 27, 2014 at 12:06 pm

    What a beautiful,refreshingly honest interview.This was very insightful and spot on in regards to her advice on building a strong foundation of FRIENDSHIP,-at.. And learning to forgive-and to forgive.. QUICKLY–I would add that ALL SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGES–ARE THOSE BETWEEN (2) GREAT FORGIVERS❤️❤️❤️

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