It’s been a hectic couple of weeks on my end but I’m excited to get back to this awesome advice series. I love reading the responses of such sweet, honest, and insightful women.
Today’s interview is with Melisa from Pie N’ the Sky. Melisa and I worked on the same campaign awhile back and I have been visiting her blog ever since! Be sure to stop by and check out here blog whenever you have a chance!
Elisha and I just celebrated our one year anniversary on November 7th! We also celebrated our ten year date-iversary on Novermber 4th!
A. We landed somewhere in the middle. We gave ourselves a pretty strict budget and I’m happy to say that we stuck pretty close to it. We knew we wanted to use the majority of our money to build a life, a home, and family together, and not so much just on the wedding itself. So we made a list of the non-negotiables, the things we had to have to really make our wedding memorable. From there we made our budget – the things that mattered got the most money put towards them, and the others were allocated appropriately. For example, I knew I wanted great photos and a beautiful dress – Elisha knew he wanted a nice tailored suit and great location. So, photographer, venue and attire were at the top of our list. It’s fine if you want to splurge, it your wedding so by all means! But, make sure you splurge on the things that actually matter to you.
A. Getting to spend everyday with my best friend. I know I know, kinda cheesy, but completely true. Elisha and I dated for 8 years before he proposed to me . There was something pretty incredible that happened in the “waiting” portion of our relationship – we became true lifelong friends. So I love that I get to live with my best friend, and share life with him, and learn and grow together.
A. I would have to say defining our roles. I work an 8-5 job and Elisha has more freedom with his work schedule. Because of this he’s home more often than I am, so things like cleaning and starting dinner are more easily done by him. Not that I beleive women are the only ones who can do that, but it’s been difficult for me to not be able to help as much in those areas. He’s wonderful and willng to help in any area and for that I’m so grateful! In my mind, I was going to be the one at home cleaning and cooking and taking care of things, so this has just been an adjustment. I don’t anticipate this is how it’ll be forever, but for now it’s what works for us.
A. hmmm… there’s a lot I could say. Early on in our dating relationship I was told this piece of advice and it has stuck with me and truly changed our relationship : Always put your spouses needs above your own. If both spouses will do this, then you will have a relationship where both people are being taken care of equally. I always make sure Elisha is taken care of and he always makes sure I’m taken care of. In this way we feel loved and supported, and not one person is constantly giving or taking. Remember to be accepting, loving and always forgiving! “Let it go” is a good phrase to keep in mind. There are bound to be little irritations or hot topics that come up, but if you can learn to just let those little things go, you’re gonna be better for it!
Thank you for your wonderful responses Melisa! I loved looking through your wedding photos! I wish you both tons of continued happiness 🙂
I hope you enjoyed today’s interview. Let me know if there’s a question you’d like to see included!